It’s the question I get asked the most. Whether you’re having a church wedding, a civil ceremony, or a celebrant-led ceremony, there are specific points where you need music!
I’ve based my suggestions below on a traditional wedding ceremony in England, and most Church of England and civil ceremonies tend to follow this pattern. There’s not usually much wiggle room for added extras, as your ceremony needs to fit within the standard time frame. But even though these legal ceremonies are a little inflexible, you can still personalise them with your music choices.
Religious ceremonies from other faiths have different traditions and may use music in other ways. If you’re having a celebrant-led ceremony, you have a lot more freedom to change things up. I’m hoping to do a blog post on music for celebrant-led weddings in the future, so watch this space!
In the meantime, here are my recommendations for must-have music in a traditional English wedding ceremony:
Music for walking down the aisle
Sometimes called the Processional or Entrance Music, this is the one my couples take the most care over choosing. Some couples choose a song that already means something to them. Others pick something that will gain a new significance. You might be entering the ceremony room together. Or perhaps one of you will be waiting at the top of the aisle while the other makes a grand entrance. Whichever it is, the song you hear at this moment will stay with you forever.
Music during the signing of the register
In a legal ceremony, once you’ve said your vows, it’s time to make it official by signing the register. It’s also a chance for your photographer to take some beautiful pictures of you as newlyweds. This bit usually takes a little while. It’s a good idea to have some music at this point to keep your guests entertained. Some carefully chosen songs will maintain that warm, loving atmosphere that has built up during your ceremony.
I recommend that couples choose two songs and one backup for this part of the ceremony. That’s usually the right amount to fill the required time. A live musician can think on their feet and adapt in the moment. They’ll make sure there are no awkward silences, so your guests can sit back and enjoy a wonderful performance.
Ceremony exit music
Also known as the Recessional, the exit music will play as you leave the ceremony, hand-in-hand as newlyweds. I usually suggest that couples choose something upbeat and uplifting. It’s a joyous moment that takes you and your guests from the formalities of the ceremony into the fun of your wedding reception! It signals that your marriage is now official, and it’s time to party!
Optional extra: background music as guests arrive and take their seats
If you’re having live musicians, make the most of them by asking them to play some beautiful background music as your guests arrive. It sets the tone and creates a wonderful atmosphere, ready for the tender moments of the ceremony. If one member of the couple is waiting at the top of the aisle, it may also help calm their nerves!
I hope this has been a helpful guide, showing you the parts of your wedding ceremony where you need music. Now you know, it’s time to start choosing the songs! If you’re stuck, I’d love to help. Book in for a free consultation with me, and I can help you narrow down your ideas.
